So my Teen Shamrock has moved out. Read here about my thoughts.
It has been an interesting time.
The dynamics of our family has changed. It is less stressful not having to race around after her. We are not missing each other. This tells me it was time. We are in regular contact and visits. We have been to the movies together and shopping together, just like we did when she lived at home.
One realisation for me, a small ouch moment was when I Teen Shamrock came home after a couple of days of University. Mr Shamrock drove her home.
“I am dropping Latin.” She announced, dropping bags on the couch and walking out of the lounge.
“Oh, ok. ” Says I. “Why’s that?”
“Mum,” She says, “I have already explained it three times, I don’t want to go through it again.”
Ouch. I was not the first person she came to. Ouch. I am always the first person she comes to. Ouch. What does this mean?
It means things have changed.
So I told Teen Shamrock that I had had a little ouch moment. (it was only little, not a biggie at all) That I am used to being the first person she talks to, that I am not used to her having discussed it with 3 others and deciding on something without me.
She gave me a big hug and we laughed about it.
It has not been so easy on the children.
WGO woke up each morning for a week and asked for TS.
Change is hard for the boys.
We have been able use reason and logic with Celtic Lad and he is at a place of understanding. He does say he misses her from time to time.
Celtic Shamrock is a different kettle of fish however.
CS is missing TS. Very much. We are having meltdowns on a daily basis, crying at the drop of a hat. When TS comes to visit, he clings to her like a limpit. And cries all over again when they go.
He is waking up in the night and coming into our bed. He is having trouble getting to sleep. He is yelling at me for the slightest things. He is complaining of sore tummy and sore bottom.
And he has regressed to his safety net. The world of dinosaurs. And I have let him go there. All he is watching on TV is dinosaur DVDs (And Dingos as this is the latest obsession too) The only books he will read is Dinosaur books, the only facts he will talk about, is dinosaur facts. And all he plays with is dinosaurs, dinosaurs in lego, dinosaurs in the castle, drawing dinosaurs. He has gone back to being a carnivore and refusing to eat anything that isn’t meat.
But I also know, in true CS fashion, that one day we will wake up and it will have stopped. Just like that. Don’t know what will be the button to help him be okay with it, it will just happen. Coz that’s our CS.
**Sigh** The irony of all this, is that when TS lived here, they fought like cat and dog !!!! rofl.
It was SO upseting when Teen Shamrock left. But she will come back.
By: oirishlad on March 14, 2008
at 2:09 pm
Always the way.
hugs Irish one for you and your dingo.
Change isn’t easy for any of us.
By: Bettina on March 14, 2008
at 2:11 pm
Kids are amazing

Mom and I never really got along when I lived at home (we are too similar), but a few years after I moved out and a couple of neatly placed comments of me(like her bitching about Grandmom never calling her, doooh – you do the same with me?!) it got better over time.
Now she nags me over skype “when are you online again?”
Hope CS will have that “button experience” soon. I can imagine how taxing it is for all of you.
By: Nicole on March 15, 2008
at 4:40 am
Feral Beast was the same when Feral Queen moved out; took a few months for him to settle down and now he loves her coming over to visit.
We talked to me about why he was behaving like he was, how much he missed his sister, etc and it helped a little.
They used to fight like cats and dogs too LOL but now they’re almost joined at the hip when she pops in.
By: Jayne on March 15, 2008
at 9:58 pm
We had a talk and CS got to speak to TS and was MUCH happier for it. I told him we can ring her whenever he wants to.
Thanks for the comments guys.
By: widdleshamrock on March 16, 2008
at 1:07 pm
*hugs* Change sucks.
By: Anja on March 17, 2008
at 9:46 am